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Rough Day

PostPosted: Tue Oct 16, 2012 4:38 pm
by Weston81
So I turned the big 31 today and got a call that my best friends Dad passed away on the operating table unexpectedly. As I slowly get older I realize that things like this are going to happen. Just made me reflect on the relationships with peoples parents as you grow up. This man put me to work picking up rocks in his horse pasture, bailing hay, cleaning the barn etc just like he did his own son. I nicknamed his house "Camp Smith" as he always would but me to work. When I was at his house I treated him with the same respect I did my own Dad and he treated me like a son in return. As I got older our relationship changed and it went from a father/son relationship to a friend relationship. I'd go to his famliys farm during deer season and we'd drink beer and shoot the chit just like I would with any friend. I will greatly miss this man but will take the lessons I learned from him. Sorry guys just had to vent.

Re: Rough Day

PostPosted: Tue Oct 16, 2012 5:05 pm
by Fowlplay
Sorry for your loss

Re: Rough Day

PostPosted: Tue Oct 16, 2012 5:48 pm
by jehler
Dying sucks, no doubt. Why kinda surgery west?

Re: Rough Day

PostPosted: Tue Oct 16, 2012 5:49 pm
by jehler
And happy birthday

Re: Rough Day

PostPosted: Tue Oct 16, 2012 6:06 pm
by Mornin Beef
Sorry to hear. Just had my father up here this weekend. Having him over is like staring in a mirror and chit chatting with myself. Can be irritating and it's stories like yours that help me realize I need to try harder cuz our time is short. Sorry again and thanks for sharing.

Re: Rough Day

PostPosted: Tue Oct 16, 2012 6:07 pm
by Olly
Sorry to hear it man, things will work themselves out and start looking up soon.

Re: Rough Day

PostPosted: Tue Oct 16, 2012 6:15 pm
by Flightstopper
Never easy news to take, just have to support those around you and remember the good times.

Re: Rough Day

PostPosted: Tue Oct 16, 2012 7:17 pm
by Bulldog0156
My dad's not old by any means, but I still try to spend as much time as possible with him! Happy birthday and sorry for the lost friend!

Re: Rough Day

PostPosted: Wed Oct 17, 2012 8:25 am
by Weston81
Thanks guys, it was a third colon surgery in two days. Flat lined on the table on the second one and they brought him back, put him on a ventolator(sp?). Didn't make it through the third surgery, which was a last ditch effort.

Re: Rough Day

PostPosted: Wed Oct 17, 2012 8:50 am
by grizz18
Sorry to hear Weston. I'm in the same boat with you. I've had several family members die fairly recently and they start to suck more and more the older I get. I'm starting to realize that we all have a time, and I need to value the time I have with the people I want to be around (family, close friends)

I also realized to stop wasting time on people that can contribute nothing. Spend that time with the family, and real friends.

Hang in there, and prayers are sent for the family.

Re: Rough Day

PostPosted: Wed Oct 17, 2012 10:46 am
by assateague
grizz18 wrote:I also realized to stop wasting time on people that can contribute nothing.



Amen to that.

Re: Rough Day

PostPosted: Wed Oct 17, 2012 11:00 am
by Weston81
Grizz,
I actually thought about your situation several times yesterday and appreciate the prayers. It's part of life but it sure puts things in perspective.

Re: Rough Day

PostPosted: Wed Oct 17, 2012 11:03 am
by assateague
While it sucks, getting this perspective is one of the greatest gifts we can ever have. If we ever find ourselves losing that perspective, we should take a second and remind ourselves what it cost us to gain it. Prayers sent up for you, brother.

Re: Rough Day

PostPosted: Wed Oct 17, 2012 11:04 am
by Weston81
Couldn't agree more, it's events like this that allow us to become better people in a weird way.

Re: Rough Day

PostPosted: Wed Oct 17, 2012 2:08 pm
by vincentpa
assateague wrote:While it sucks, getting this perspective is one of the greatest gifts we can ever have. If we ever find ourselves losing that perspective, we should take a second and remind ourselves what it cost us to gain it. Prayers sent up for you, brother.


x2. I lose it too often. Sometimes I need a jolt to remind myself.

Re: Rough Day

PostPosted: Wed Oct 17, 2012 2:50 pm
by grizz18
Weston81 wrote:Grizz,
I actually thought about your situation several times yesterday and appreciate the prayers. It's part of life but it sure puts things in perspective.


You're very welcome. :thumbsup: